Recently, I had to have a conversation that turned into a real Dr. Phil conversation (I mean, old school Dr. Phil, not that hot mess of a train wreck he’s been hosting for the last couple of years). I asked “What are you afraid of?” And it turns out, he’s afraid of being too successful because what if in the future people expect him to be very successful. He’s afraid of future failing.
We talked about a strategy for how to not feel so anxious all of the time. My go to – because everything in our lives revolves around football season right now – WIN THE DAY. I know tons of coaches use this, but I remembered that Coach Freeze at Ole Miss used it, so I used him in my story.
I explained that Coach and his staff never look ahead in the schedule. The player and coaches simply try to win each play, each practice, each down, each game, each day. All you can expect of yourself if to try your hardest and do you your best at each moment and if you fail, you just try to win the next thing. A player will throw an interception or miss a block or fumble the ball but they don’t quit on the game and if they lose a game they can not give up on the whole season.
We aren’t ever going to be perfect. We can try try try our hardest, but sometimes we’re just not going to be the best or do the best we can do on that particular day. We can’t worry about tomorrow. All we can do is try our hardest at this very minute to be the best me that I can be. I can work my hardest to try and WIN THE DAY.
Then my girls over at Fit Approach asked, What’s your fitness strategy? How will you achieve your goals? I thought back to this conversation and thought about my own struggles. I am not currently focused on Winning The Day. I’m focused on finishing a race, fitting into a dress, being a weight (that yes I know DOESN’T DEFINE ME, Jeez Louise, I get it). But I have not been focused on the day, the bite, the meal, the plan, the focus. I must learn to be present in the day, to win the day, to reach the goal.
I can’t possibly achieve my goals if I don’t focus on winning today. Food, exercise (parenting, work and marriage while I’m at it!) I can not be focused on an end goal and ignore doing the small tasks to be successful today.
I can not finish the race, fit into the goal dress, be at a weight I’m comfortable with if I do not try to Win The Day but also know that if I do not, I will win the next choice.
HOW TO WIN THE DAY
- Set a training plan and stick to it:
- Lay out my workout clothes
- Set the alarm
- Remind DOC to kick me out of bed the second time I hit snooze
Have a back-up plan for when DOC forgets to kick me out of bed/I turn the alarm off instead of hitting snooze
- Plan and prepare my meals:
- Stick to the menu
- When my meals are prepped I make them. Don’t waste food because you’re too tired to cook.
- When you don’t stick to the meal plan, when you use Order Up, win the day by picking the best option instead of feeling guilty later on.
- Remember that you feel like absolute crap when you eat crap for dinner and try to run the next morning.
- Keep Motivations in Sight:
- Put daily goals in writing
- Put monthly goals in writing
- Move the dress from the back of the closet.
This is how I’ll win the day and stay focused on my goals.
What is your fitness strategy? How do you stay focused on your goals? I’d love to hear how you’re staying focused!