Spin Off

17 Sep

When I started this blog three years ago I had hoped that DOC would jump on here and write some himself.  The blog changed over time to my thoughts on life to more of fitness, wellness and parenting and DOC never really had a chance to share his opinions. Well, like all great sitcoms (seriously, NBC, where are you with my own show??) we have our first Spin Off.  He is the Laverne and Shirley to my Happy Days.  A Different World to my Cosby Show.  The Different Strokes to my Facts of Life.

DOC has started his own blog answering questions from his point of view called “What’s Up Black Dude“. Friends and family ask him questions and he tries to answer them as best he can.

With everything going on in the world today we have come to realize that we have very different points of view on social issues. There have been some VERY interesting points of view shared in our car rides on the way to work in the morning. If you were riding in our car, you’d think we were fighting – we’re just helping each other understand that based on our experiences how our opinions are shaped… in a sometimes loud and with lots of hand gestures manner.  Please don’t judge us at the traffic lights, ok?

The issues in Ferguson this summer really gave us a lot to debate and we were even asked to join our dear friends radio program to talk about our perspective on the issue as an interracial family, one having grown up black in the south and the other white from the north.  We have a lot to talk about, but sometimes, in the privacy of your own minivan you really talk about issues more openly than you can on radio or a blog.  We’re still trying to balance our beliefs and don’t feel ready to talk live and in living color, ya know, however, we do have a voice and we do have an opportunity to share our history and our beliefs that many of our friends might not understand because they are not a part of this culture.  I’m proud of DOC for lending his voice in this way on his blog and I hope you’ll pop over and ask him a question!

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This week, with everything being talked about with the NFL, we’ve had plenty of debates.  When news broke that Adrian Peterson was arrested for hitting his child with a switch we honestly both laughed and figured every parent we knew would be in jail.  Heck, DOC had to go and “pick his own switch” for his grandmother.  After we saw the pictures our tune quickly changed.  Abuse and spanking are very different.  Those pictures showed abuse, something we could never accuse one of our parents of.  Growing up in the black south DOC’s grandparents reared him the way they were and the generations before them were – at the hand of a switch – that they more than likely learned from a slave owner.

I hope you’ll read DOC’s take on this and ask him a great question.  He hasn’t answered mine yet…. Why do some black men love big butts and why would they ever deny it?  It’s a great mystery of life.

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Sparkle on,
Aimee

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In Honor of My Love Of Mud

15 Sep Comfort Zone

Just a quick recap today in honor of this weekend’s Pretty Muddy!  I am so excited to run my first mud run with our nine-year-old son this weekend!  Two of my girlfriends and their sons are running too.  I am so thankful for Pretty Muddy for selecting me as an ambassador for this event and for allowing me to run again this year but this time with my favorite little guy.

If you are running in a mud run this weekend here is a reminder of what to pack for a mud run:

And if you’re not convinced to run in Pretty Muddy Richmond yet, here’s a note about just how much I loved last year’s event. Seriously, ladies, let’s DO THIS!

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Heart Breaker

10 Sep

This boy.  He slapped me into reality recently.

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For those of you that don’t know, I am a special event fundraiser.  I plan, organize and execute special events to raise money for a non-profit organization.  There are three other people on my team that do similar work.  About three or four times a year we put on huge events and they are “all hands on deck” situations working 16-18 hour days – for three – four straight days.

I’m entitled to take some flex time but my own events need my attention so I decided I’d come back in.  I rarely take my flex time and I have a full bank of PTO time.  Recently, after one of those weekends, when I told the kids that I couldn’t take off and needed to come into work The Boy  looked a little sad but said “ok, mom.”  A half hour later a note slid out from under his bedroom door.

“Dear Mom,

Please don’t go to work tomorrow.  I need to spend time with you and I feel like I haven’t seen very much of you lately.

I love you,

‘the boy'”

Crushed heart.

Remember when we were young and all we wanted was to grow up, get kissed on a dining room table like Samantha in Sixteen Candles, drive fast, be grown-up.  Being a grown-up is not what it is cracked up to be. Samantha – stay on that table FOREVER.  Don’t grow up!  It’s hard out here!

I usually get up very early in the morning to better my health, the past two weeks I’ve been too exhausted to take care of my wellness the way that I want to, so I’m slipping in little mini workouts throughout the day and trying to eat as healthy as I can because I know I’m not working the calories off the way I should.  I’m hosting a “Back To You – Back To School” Challenge to help other women get some balance so they can focus on family, work and their own wellness, but, I’m not sure I’m taking the best care of my family and myself that I can.  I feel like a life in balance fraud.

Every day the women (I don’t think there are any men! WHAT THE WHAT?) in our little group inspire me.  They are all trying so hard and admitting their challenges, fears, successes.  I am so proud of them.  I wish I wasn’t beating myself up so hard.  Life IS about balance.  I know that.  One of my favorite quotes reminds me of that very fact:

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It’s Wednesday.  I have my eyes focused on getting through a very hard day today and tomorrow for work and then I’m taking three full days off for them. Disconnected. While they’re in school Friday I will get the house organized and cleaned and yes, I’ll probably take a little nap before they get home.  I want this weekend to be about US 4 Carters.  Just us.  Family, football, food prep, naps and fun.  And naps.  Did I mention the naps?

 

Sparkle on,

Aimee

 

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In The Beginning

3 Sep

Dear B2SB2U Beginners;

I AM SO PROUD OF YOU! I truly feel that you are taking the first step here, joining a challenge group to start to take care of YOU. To learn from three women who have been in your shoes, who have been where you are. I know I was there. Know that we are here, that we’re taking the same painful steps as you, and that WE BELIEVE IN YOU – probably right now, more than you can believe in yourself. But WE believe. I BELIEVE.

I want to tell you how I started. The very very beginning. The first month of hope and hopelessness at the same time, desperate for a healthier life.

I woke up each morning and stepped up and down on the wii fit using the “Basic Step”. It is a game on that I could turn on to keep the beat of me stepping on and off the fit board. That is all I could do. I watched an early morning television program (Willie Geist, you cute thing you. You and me, every morning at 5:30 for “Way Too Early”.  It was magical.)  Jillian Michaels, grrrr, she says in the 30 day shred video that anyone, even 400 pound people, can do jumping jacks. She lies. I could NOT do more than 5 jumping jacks at nearly 300 pounds. But I could march in place for 30 minutes every day for 30 days.I started as slow as the beat would go and little by little I increased the speed over a month.  I was supposed to be training for a mud run and all I could do was march.  But march I did.

And then I started walking. And then I started lifting and doing body weight exercises. And then I started running. And I’m still trying to learn to run.  I’m still in the 200s and my body can do amazing things now.. But it all started with marching in place.

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Me 7 months into my journey and this weekend.

I believe in you.

Sparkle on,

Aimee

 

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Back To School – Back To You Fitness Test

2 Sep

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Today’s challenge is to TAKE A FITNESS TEST and download a FREE fitness journal from Sublime Reflection

What I would like for you to do is to track specific goals for yourself over this month. Kimberly’s fitness journal is a great way to track your body measurements as well as your fitness. Remember that FITNESS is NOT a number on a scale. If you have a tape measure, measure your arms, thighs, waist etc. and weigh yourself.  

Since this month ISN’T about losing weight, it’s about making progress on your wellness journey, I also want you to track yourself doing a couple of exercises and work towards improving these goals over the next month.  For today, I want you to do a couple of basic exercises and record your times.  

Walk or run ONE MILE. Record the time.  

With a timer or stop watch (you should have one on your phone!) I want you to do as many of these exercises as you can and record them:
Basic Crunch
Push-up (prefer you do incline instead of on your knees!)
And how long can you hold a plank.
If you want to track other areas, like squats, dips, pull-ups, weight lifting, 100 yard sprint… whatever YOU want to focus on this month that is NOT the scale.

Record these numbers at the bottom of the “3 Month Progress Tracker” and we’ll test again at the end of the month!

 

Kimberly, Nica and I hope you’re joining in!  If you haven’t signed up yet, there is still time! Just click here to register and then join the Facebook Group or on social media using the hashtag #B2SB2U.  This is a totally FREE program full of support, new friendships and PRIZES sponsored by your hosts and favorite fitness brands including Taffy Activewear #LoveTaffy (you can use the code Aimee15 to save 15%!) and Soxy Feet #BringingSoxyBack (you can use the code SOXYFRIENDS to save 10% off any purchase!) and a new sponsor today Clip’n Band my absolute FAVORITE headband.  

I’d love to hear all about how you planned for this week to get in thirty minutes of “Me Time” and about your food planning!  Failure to plan = planning to fail!  Planning ahead and sticking to the plan are the first steps to a successful wellness journey, for sure!  

Sparkle on, 

Aimee

 

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Back To School – Back To You

28 Aug

 

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Are they gone?  Kids out of the house?  You’ve had your mimosa, nap, trip to Target alone, a manicure and a deep breath yet?   No?  WELL, have I got something for you!  For the month of September I want to help you get back to you.  Oh, but you just got back from vacation?  Yeah, right.  Vacation is just about more exhausting than real life because you still have to be a parent, just in a new environment and being a parent is pretty darn exhausting somedays.  And if you aren’t a parent or your chicks have flown the coop, I STILL know that September is a good time to refocus on your goals, to plan for the fall.  No matte what, I know you’re happy to get back to a regular routine and even though that routine is hectic  a routine helps you get BACK 2 YOU

My girls Kimberly at Sublime Reflection, Nica at BadAss Chronicles and I have decided to do a “Back To School – Back To You Challenge” for the month of September.  This challenge will focus on taking back time for you now that the kids are back in school, or if you aren’t a parent, now that fall is coming and it’s not too dang hot to work out! Much like new years resolutions, it’s a time to refocus on goals. And I don’t know about you, but I really need a kick in the pants to refocus on my goals! Get signed-up  and we’ll send you the Challenge Calendar!

We’ve created a months worth of small daily challenges to help you declutter, recharge, clean up your meal planning, and clean up your spending, and reconnect to you.   This challenge is 100% FREE to participate, however, much like with everything in life you will get out of it what YOU put into it!  Join the Facebook Group that we created for motivation, to share your successes and tips and share to instagram, twitter and facebook using the hashtag ‪#‎B2SB2U‬.

 

Oh wait.  Did I mention we’re going to have prizes?  Nica, Kimberly and I are pulling together some prizes from some of your favorite fitness brands for those of you that are the most active online (facebook, twitter and instagram!) and we’ll be sharing those prizes soon over in the Facebook Group.

Ok, so, here’s all you need to do right now:

REGISTER and we’ll send you the Challenge Calendar


Join The Facebook Group

 

Share this image on facebook, twitter, instagram, pinterest, google+… wherever!.. and use the hashtag #B2SB2U and recruit your friends to join us!  I’d love for you to join us The Evolution of Mrs. Aimee C and Sublime Reflection and Badass Chronicles to share more and hear our tips on how we’re trying to get Back To US.

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The Summer of ’14

26 Aug

This summer, Just us 4 Carters could have been called the Crazy Carters.  But we survived. And something amazing happened along the way.

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The two little Carters became best friends.  Yes, of course, they are each others biggest pain in the butt, but they proved this summer that they truly love one another. We watched this summer as they moved from being siblings, who would play in opposite rooms with “boy toys” “my toys” “don’t touch that” “that’s MINE” to “hey, let’s have a scooter race”, “hey, wanna come play”, “let’s show mom”, “can we go together to the playground”.

When DOC and I first started falling in love I asked him “how do you know this is love?” His response was “I stopped saying me and started saying we. I no longer say I’m going to do whatever,  I say we’re going to go do whatever.”  This summer I witnessed the kids moving from me, my, mine to us, we, we’re, together.  Like all couples, sure they fight and yes, they need their alone time – who doesn’t.  They are maturing and for once I can see that they really might actually grow up to love one another.

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We started back to school last week and now I’ll return to a more regular schedule of parenting, posting, and a return to focus on some of our families goals.  This summer was tiring, but I wouldn’t have traded it for the world.

To misquote a popular saying:

tough

 

 

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